friendship

"When you choose your friends, don't be short-changed by choosing personality over character." -W. Somerset Maugham. Novelist, playwright, and short-story writer, born in Paris, France.

If only I would've realized this earlier. As I alluded to in my first post, I have recently been dealing with some negative feelings regarding my current friendships. There were a couple, in particular, that were really bringing me down. Having taken numerous courses in psychology, I was doing a lot of "self-therapy" in my head for a couple weeks, trying to grasp what, exactly was making me so unhappy. I realized that it was because the majority of my thoughts were on certain things that people have done to me that hurt. I was allowing these thoughts to make me feel bad about myself. My realization was simple, of course. Get over it, move on and learn!!!

The above quote is so awesome. How often have we been drawn to someone because of their personality. They may have been loud, funny, smart, good looking or had connections and we felt important to be their friend. Only to later be hurt when they failed to treat us with the respect we deserved. They lacked the character to keep a friend of good character.

I've been so happy the past week. Not the regular type of happy but a deeper level of contentment that I honestly haven't felt for awhile. I enjoyed every minute with my husband and kids. I felt confident saying no to a neighbor's invitation to a get-together because, quite frankly, I'm in a state right now where my own little family is good enough company for me. I'm through thinking I have to be doing something all the time or belong to some sort of clique to be important. I'm ready to be me. I'm ready to take the advice of Mr. Maugham and myself, finally, and just see if it works.