needs

"In vital matters... decision[s] should come from the unconscious, from somewhere within ourselves. In the important decisions of personal life, we should be governed, I think, by the deep inner needs of our nature." - Sigmund Freud

In closing out 2005, I am drawn back to the profound words of the great Freud. I'm anxiously looking forward to the upcoming year. For all of the obvious reasons; continuing to grow and build on my already wonderful relationship with my husband; watching my children grow, learning, aspiring, dreaming, etc... In my last session with Dr. French, we discussed how essential it is for a person's needs to be met. And we all have different needs. Our challenge is learning what those are and how to get them met in a healthy way. For those of you who are married and/or have children, I recommend this book and this book to help you in discovering how to show those you care about you love them in a way that's meaningful to them. But also, don't forget about yourself, because being a happy person is not only the best thing you can do for yourself, but it is also the best thing you can give to others.

So that's my New Year's Resolution - to meet my needs in 2006. It will be a struggle; not because I'm a stranger to being selfish, but because I'm prone to feeling guilty about it.